The scale has a number on it—or that number means I’m disgusting. She made a comment—or her comment must mean I’m a horrible person. I have a job—or my job isn’t good enough to make me successful in this life. He married me­—or he’ll never love me enough. The first half of those sentences are [...]

Could the opposite be true? It’s a simple little question with a whole lot of power. I’ve been asking myself this question for a long time, so I sometimes forget how life altering it can be for folks. I recently started noticing the profound effect it has—I’m talkin’ major “aha” moments—so I thought I’d fill [...]

This week I found out that a sixty page book proposal I wrote did not get selected as the winner of a contest I entered. The grand prize was a publishing deal—a dream of mine. The desire to write a book has been in me for quite some time now, and I really thought this [...]

“I can’t believe she said that!” “I can’t believe he did that!” “I can’t believe that happened!” “I’m shocked that yadda yadda, and blah blah blah blah!” I actually find it astounding that people think and say these types of things—which I see is quite ironic. You’d think after all these years of living, we’d [...]

After sending out last week’s post on emotionally healthy eating, I got a lot of responses. I know being an emotionally healthy eater can be much easier said than done, so I started thinking about why so many folks struggle to live that way. And guess what? It almost always goes back to the silly [...]

In this day and age, there’s a whole lot of talk about eating healthy. It seems to be a hot topic for a lot of folks, and we are regularly bombarded with information about the latest foods we “should” cut out and add to our diets. This can be confusing since one day we’re told [...]

I often tell clients it’s important to feel their feelings. On the other hand, I regularly help people understand it’s their thoughts that create their suffering—and if we change our thoughts, we can improve the way we feel. I recently realized how confusing this can be for people if they don’t fully understand how to [...]

How do we make sense of things that just don’t make sense? A dear friend of almost eight years, passed away last week. He died in his sleep. He was 49. He had two little girls. I have not felt like myself since I heard the news. I’ve been looking for the magic, searching for [...]

Other people’s behavior at times can get under our skin (or our thoughts about it anyway). My guess is it’s happened to just about all of us more than a few times over the years. “He’s so opinionated, she’s so quick to judge, so-and-so is so selfish”—catch my drift? When it occurs though, there’s something [...]