“It would be weird if you didn’t feel that way.” It’s something I’ve said for as long as I can remember. Recently, I was complaining about something to a friend (yes, I do complain sometimes), and she repeated it to me. It made me giggle because it’s so true. I was feeling crappy because of the thoughts I was having.
In our lives, there are sometimes people who like to tell us how we should feel about things. Maybe at some point someone has told you, “You have no right to feel that way,” or “You should feel _____ about it.” In addition, we sometimes have the tendency to disregard our own feelings, tell ourselves our feelings are silly, or we should or shouldn’t feel a certain way. I’ll say it again—it would be weird if you didn’t feel that way.
You are you, and I am me, and you and I both have the right to feel what we feel no matter what—even if it doesn’t make sense to others. We can’t expect others to always agree though because they are not in our heads, and in most cases everyone’s perceptions are different. So it would be weird if anyone didn’t feel what they feel because our feelings come from our thoughts.
If someone touched a stove, and it felt hot and burned them, they most likely wouldn’t do it again. Yet, folks often find themselves thinking negative thoughts and repeating certain behaviors and then are surprised when they feel like crap. More often than not though, when it comes to situations we don’t feel great about, going in for more is not gonna yield different results.
We are accountable for our feelings. We may not agree with others’ behaviors or love every circumstance in our lives, but we feel what we feel because of our perception of those things and the choices we make.
So then next time you find yourself thinking, I can’t believe I feel this way, believe it because it would be weird if you didn’t.
That’s it—that’s all I got for ya…
Happy day!
